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THE MAN I LOVE: Ida Lupino Rides to the Rescue of, Well, Everyone

In The Man I Love, Ida Lupino enters smoking.

She’s also got a cigarette.

If, after this, you wouldn’t want to stick around for the rest of the movie, just please don’t ever speak to me again.

It’s clear that for Petey Brown, the man she loves has come along… and come and gone. And like most of Lupino’s ladies, this one’s in deep.

Seeking some sort of sanctuary, Petey flees New York to spend Christmas with her family back home in California, where things seemed so much simpler. But they’re not so simple any more.

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Her sister Sally (Andrea King) and brother Joey (Warren Douglas) are knee-deep in sleaze, working at a local dive owned by a shady hustler, Nicky Toresca (Robert Alda). Nicky has eyes for Sally, who’s got enough trouble tending to her shell-shocked, hospitalized husband (John Ridgely). Little sister Ginny (Martha Vickers) isn’t in trouble yet: she’s too busy babysitting for Gloria (Dolores Moran), the floozy next door, while the not-so-doting mother is out making time with Nicky. But Ginny’s starting to feel something more than pity for Gloria’s husband Johnny (Don McGuire).

Sorry you came home yet, Petey? Actually, no—she’s thinking she got there just in time. Petey, who was probably mothering this brood even when they still had a mother, is a rescuer in search of a mission. And boy, has she found one.

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First order of business: pouring herself into the slinky gown the predatory Nicky had sent to Sally and sashaying down to his place to land a job as a singer, so she can keep an eye on the boss and distract him from her baby sister. Mission accomplished, with relative ease. What she wasn’t counting on was San Thomas (Bruce Bennett), the jazz pianist with a troubled past…

And just like that, Petey has another rescue on her hands—but this one’s not so eager to be saved. “I’d make you sing the blues, honey,” San warns her. “I’ll take that chance,” she murmurs back, and she means it, whatever the cost. San is broken, bruised and brooding from a bad marriage, and certain he has nothing left to give. Petey thinks otherwise, and when you see them together, in scenes so intimate you feel like you’re eavesdropping, you know she’s right.

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And if you think of Bennett mainly as the helpless prospector in The Treasure of the Sierra Madre or the hapless husband in Mildred Pierce (where he somehow manages to look like the victim even though he’s the one cheating), take another glimpse. This is a man in pain, whose sensitive soul has brought him nothing but misery. His music was his refuge, until he met a woman as wounded as he is, who won’t let him hide in there alone any more. Watch him at the piano, playing the title song as Petey looks on tenderly, falling in love with him and the music and the idea of maybe even being happy again. I dare you not to fall right along with her.

This was director Raoul Walsh’s fourth film with Lupino, after Artists and Models, They Drive By Night and High Sierra (where yes, Bogart was a thief and a murderer, but the real crime was the way he treated Ida). The director and his favorite star were both alchemists who could strike the perfect balance of tough and tender. They had a great rhythm together, and he later mentored her when she took her place behind the camera. Lupino’s co-star Andrea King said they reminded her of father and daughter.


Like Walsh and Lupino, The Man I Love is impossible to pigeonhole. Is it a noir? A semi-musical? A crime drama? A dreaded “woman’s picture”? Variety labeled it a “brittle sex romance.” Which actually sounds kinda painful. Maybe Martin Scorsese, who calls the film one of his favorites, sums it up best: “The Man I Love is dark—it’s a film noir musical, and it’s what I was going for in New York, New York.

But whatever you call it, with Walsh firmly at the helm, the film never founders. It just works. And Walsh was every bit as forceful about playtime: when he was happy with what he’d shot, he’d boom “Cut! Print!” followed quickly by “Now it’s time for the cooking sherry!”

But there wasn’t enough sherry in all of Spain to make The Man I Love a happy set. Shortly before production began in the summer of 1945, Lupino—already exhausted from her wartime duties touring hospitals and selling war bonds on three continents—strained a stomach muscle while moving a heavy trunk and was ordered to bed to recuperate. Just four days into the shoot, her injury flared up again. “Sorry, I am laid up,” she explained in a telegram to Walsh. “Wanted to come to work but doctors said absolutely no. The hypos are helping. The dogs are barking. The cooking sherry does not do any good and I just shot my aunt Kate. Will do my best to make it Saturday.”


Still fatigued and in pain, Lupino returned to work during a blistering July heatwave, and production ground on, punctuated by the star’s frequent, if unavoidable, latenesses and absences as her health failed to improve. During one scene, she fainted—with only Robert Alda’s quick reflexes coming between her and the concrete floor—and had to be snipped out of her skintight evening gown to be revived.

Adding to the tension on the set were the daily war bulletins, constant complaints about cost overruns from the front office, and endless memos from the Breen Office bleating about the film’s “low moral tone…of adultery and illicit sex,” which forced countless rewrites. When the production mercifully wrapped in mid-September, it was 19 days behind schedule and $100,000 over budget

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Ida being Ida, she took the weight of the entire fiasco onto her own slender shoulders, throwing a huge party for the entire cast and crew of more than 200 and insisting on dancing with every man at least once. She promptly sprained her ankle, hobbling off the bedeviled set for the final time on crutches.



  1. Terrific post – just love what a pro Ida was (she should have gotten a Purple Heart after this film). And can only groan at the ever-needling Breen office, seeking out sin like a guided missile, whether or not it was actually present. How did civilization ever survive the Production Code?

  2. I feel like I may have seen this one before, but I’m not sure. After reading your post, I definitely want to see it again and discover what happens to Petey’s drama-finding family. Interesting behind-the-scenes info. Ida was a real trooper–no diva there!

    • Thank you, Bonnie! And yes, Ida was like the anti-diva! I tried to focus on things other than the plot so as not to divulge anything that would be a spoiler, but there is lots of action, for everybody!!

  3. What a great selection — and a superb post! When I started reading it, I’d planned on cutting and pasting a few of my favorite passages, but by the time I got to the end, I realized I’d practically be copying the entire post! I guess it goes without saying that, while I’ve seen this film more than once, you have made me want to dash home right now, dust off my copy, and get to watching. Really, really good stuff here. Thank you so much for contributing it to our blogathon. (PS — would you please email me at I have a question for you!)

    • Wow, Karen, thank you so much, you are terribly kind!! I can’t really take credit though — Ida, Raoul, Bruce and the whole fabulous film are great inspiration!! Thank you for having me to your fabulous event — I can’t wait to read all the other entries!! ❤

  4. Very entertaining post, yet another film added to my ever growing to see list. now sit back and enjoy some of that cooking sherry 😉

  5. Love the background you included! I like this one and fascinating detail, nice telegram from Ida 🙂 with details thrown in to see if he was paying attention. Great pick for the event and thanks for joining us!

  6. Love your opening.

    For many years I thought I loved Bruce Bennett for his speaking voice. It gets to me. Then I saw in him a leather jacket in a bit as a motorcycle cop in “The Lone Wolf Keeps a Date”. Now I realize (thank you), it is subtle tenderness.

    I’m sorry, but not surprised, that the Hays folks thought the film had a low moral tone. I thought they were aiming to present real problems in the domestic area of the picture. Well, you can’t please everybody.

    • When I was researching this, and I read the part about sex and a low moral tone, I was like, “Oh, please! It’s called ‘reality,’ for God’s sake!” And yes, as you could tell, I share your crush on Bruce. Have you seen him in Mystery Street as the brainy scientist?

  7. Ida is definitely on my fantasy dinner party guest list. She’d be the life and soul. Of all the Walsh/Lupino collaborations, this one is – hands down – my favourite.

    • Ida is my fantasy guest/sister/mother/best friend so I hear you, girl!! And this is my favorite film of theirs also. I love that pic of them as well: there is a father-daughter vibe, so much pride and love on both sides!!

  8. What a trooper that Ida was! I cannot imagine working on a film with all these goings-on.

    You’ve absolutely sold me on this film. I cannot wait to see it. Loved this post.

    • Thank you so much!! Yes Ida was The Best!! I hope you like the movie as much as I did…

  9. Blake Lucas

    Great appreciation of a great film. My favorite Walsh/Lupino too. I never saw Bennett in a role like that and the Lupino/Bennett scenes are perhaps the soul of the movie though it all works beautifully..

    I had not known that Walsh mentored her when she became a director but it certainly makes sense he would be the one. And she became a wonderful director in those 50s movies. I wish she’d done more.

    Tough and tender so well describes both Raoul Walsh and Ida Lupino.

    • Thank you, Blake!! And she and Raoul really were soulmates, weren’t they?!?


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